Why We Cry……….Why do you cry?


Why do you cry?

sad cry

The ”why” of crying may seem obvious and straightforward: You’re happy or sad. But that’s too simplistic. 

Crying is a natural emotional response to certain feelings, usually sadness and hurt. But then people [also] cry under other circumstances and occasions.

happy cryFor instance, people cry in response to something of beauty. The term ‘melting’ comes to mind. They are letting go of their guard, their defenses, tapping into a place deep inside themselves.”

Crying does serve an emotional purpose. It’s a release. There is a buildup of energy with feelings.

It can also be a survival mechanism. ‘When you cry, it’s a signal that you need to address something. Among other things, it may mean you are frustrated, overwhelmed or even just trying to get someone’s attention. Some call this a ”secondary gain” cry.

On top of that, crying may have a biochemical purpose. It’s believed to release stress hormones or toxins from the body.

Lastly, crying has a purely social function. It often wins support from those who watch you cry. Sometimes, crying may be manipulative — a way to get what you want, whether you’re asking a friend to go shopping with you, your spouse to agree to a luxurious vacation, or your child to get their math homework done.

crying manipulative

Adapted from: http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/why-we-cry-the-truth-about-tearing-up

By Kathleen Doheny, Reviewed by Louise Chang, M.D.

Next: “Crying Out Loud: Who’s Most Likely?”