Why We Cry………The Truth About Tearing Up

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The Truth About Tearing Up

It starts with a quivering lip. Or maybe blinking faster and faster to keep the wetness from escaping.

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Before you know it, you’re getting teary — again.

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You may be one of those people who cry at the drop of a hat — not to mention weddings, birthday parties, your kids’ school plays, and the humane society public service announcements showing those adorable dogs in need of new homes.

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Or you may be the type who can’t remember when you last cried.

Either way, crying often catches the often-teary eyed or the usually stoic off guard — striking at a time or place where you don’t want to weep — and others don’t want to watch you weep.

Just ask New England Patriots coach Bill Belichick, normally stoic, who got teary as he announced the retirement of his star linebacker Tedy Bruschi. bill-belichickOr Hilary Clinton, whose tears one night on the 2008 presidential campaign trail were splashed across TV screens.Hillary_cries

Football coaches and politicians crying in public may reflect a society that’s evolving to become a bit more comfortable with emotion. But crying in front of people can still be awkward for the person crying and people around them.

What’s behind our crying? Why do some people cry so much more or less readily than others? And what’s the best way to handle all those tears? Is there a way not to cry when it’s totally inappropriate, such as in response to your boss declining that request for a raise?

In this series we will see where researchers and therapists who study crying share what they’ve learned — and what still puzzles them.

Adapted from: http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/why-we-cry-the-truth-about-tearing-up

By Kathleen Doheny, Reviewed by Louise Chang, M.D.

Next – Part 2: Why Do You Cry?
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A Revelation: Family Matters

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A Simple Revelation

You know, yesterday, on Christmas Eve, God gave me a revelation.  It was simple but it was powerful for me.

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He said to me, “You know Cydnee, the reason there is so much heartache and sorrow around Christmas is because people don’t take the time to get together and share the same joy, special memories, food, and fun all year long. Then when Christmas comes around, expectations are SO HIGH, that the least little thing that does or does not happen can cause unnecessary heartache and suffering. If everyone would just have these special family/extended family get togethers several times throughout the year, this problem would solve itself.”

This makes so much sense to me.  When I was little, families did what we called “visiting”. Every Sunday, we would all get in the car (like it or not) and “go make a li’l round” (as my mom called it) at so and so’s house.

No phone calls or heads up necessary, we’d just pop over; and if they were home, we “got down” (a term my parents used for get out of the car and go inside) for a visit. Coffee (and sometimes a cookie or cake) was served on a tray, all the adults laughed and told stories, while the kids were usually bored to death (except for the snacks ;)).

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Nevertheless in some way, shape, or form, fellowship was had by all.  Some of it was good, some not so good, but we communicated and shared our lives IN PERSON. What a concept!

In conclusion, what the Lord spoke to me, may not be a revelation to you, but it certainly resonated with me. So, I thought I’d share.

Family matters, especially on purpose, and in person.